None of us are immune to the clutches of self-doubt. Self-doubt raises its ugly head at our most vulnerable moments. According to Eugene therapy, self-doubt is characterized by feelings of uncertainty regarding one or more aspects of the self. Though this is something everybody has to deal with at some point in their life, when self-doubt becomes too much, we need to take action to reduce it.
No matter how rich a person is or how beautiful they might be, nobody is truly free of doubting themselves. Am I good enough? Am I worthy of love? Am I capable of doing this? Such questions are always at the back of our minds, nagging us and, stopping us from becoming our best selves.
Self-doubt arises mainly from our perception of how society views us. We want to fit in, make more friends, and be appreciated for our work, when one of these goes wrong or feels insufficient self-doubt creeps in. Finding faults in us which may be leading us to the present circumstance. "Maybe I don't have many friends because I am like this", "Maybe I should start dressing differently to fit in at my workplace", and so on.
But we can adopt certain habits in our lives that may help us reduce self-doubt:
>AFFIRMATIONS, AFFIRMATIONS AND AFFIRMATIONS
Affirmations are amazing and powerful tools to improve your mind. By repeating something constantly, be it positive or negative we start believing in it. So the most easiest and practical way of getting rid of the ugly thoughts is by replacing them with positive and beautiful thoughts. Try including affirmations in your morning and evening routine. Also, remember to repeat them whenever your mind is getting distracted or whenever you are free.
>MEDITATE
Self-doubt arises from the chaos present in our minds. Way too many thoughts and confusion. Meditation may not have a direct link to self-doubt but it does help. When you have a calm and clear mind you are more aware and conscious of your thoughts. Even 5-10 minutes of silence per day can bring in a whole lot of change.
>MAKE TIME FOR THINGS YOU LOVE
Doing things you love and/or are good at, brings in a sense of confidence and joy. Spending time on painting, drawing, or dancing not only helps you build your confidence but also helps you take a break from the monotony of life. Spare half an hour each day to do something which brings you true happiness.
>KEEP THE PROMISES YOU MAKE TO YOURSELF
This one is so very important. When we keep breaking the promises we make to ourselves, self-doubt crawls in. 'I promise I'll work out every day this week' and you keep breaking it over and over again thereby lagging in your fitness goals. And the next time you look in the mirror, the voice in your head starts to put you down.
>SURROUND YOURSELF WITH GENUINE PEOPLE
Sometimes the cause of our self-doubt may also be due to the people around us. People who bring you down, tone down your achievements, or those who always comment on your shortcomings. You don't have to tolerate such people just because you have known them for many years or they are your friends. Surround yourself with people who are genuine in their wishes for you, who celebrate you and your achievements. You deserve to be celebrated. And I know that it may be hard to cut people off sometimes, so try this, for every negative person you interact with, interact with three positive people.
But most importantly what you need to keep in mind is that nobody is perfect, not even our idols. Everybody has their low moments and their moments of self-doubt. Social media is mostly a facade and 99% of the time we don't know about the things going on behind the camera. All we can do is do our best every single day and keep going. Remind yourself that you are doing the best you can and you are absolutely worthy and capable of the dreams you have.
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